People are sometimes too selfish that they only think of themselves. They do drugs; they steal things; they hurt their partners; they murder people; they rape women and children; they do a number of illegal things that can get them arrested. They think only of themselves and what they can gain from it. Unfortunately, the last thing they think of is the effects it has on their family and the people who love them.
You put your family through a very humiliating process.
The fact that there are police cars in front of your home is enough ordeal for the whole family. Neighbors are watching the situation, and people are gossiping behind your back. Since they don’t know most of the details of the arrest, you’re going to put your family through a very humiliating situation of having people gossip about you. Some of your neighbors even have children going to the same school with your kids, and your being arrested opens them up to bullying, taunting, and more gossiping.
You put your family through a very emotionally draining experience.
If you’re the sole breadwinner of your family, your arrest is going to put them through an emotional rollercoaster of shock, fear, anger, disbelief, denial, depression, etc. If they know nothing of your crimes, they’ll go through shock and disbelief. They’re even going to deny that all these things are happening to you and to them. However, as your criminal offenses are unraveled, their feelings for you are going to change. Yes, they love you, but they’ll hate you and get mad at you for doing this to them.
Since you’re the one putting food on their table, you’ll be adding fear into the equation. Who’s going to pay for all the bills? Who’s going to pay for their education and medical needs? Where will they get money to support themselves?
What you did will totally overwhelm them that it will take some time before they can get back on their feet and survive after your arrest.
You put your relationship with your spouse and your children at risk.
Some families cannot survive an arrest that it almost always ends up with the couple divorcing each other. This leaves the children to deal with the new situation on their own as both parents are too caught up on their own emotions and problems. If you look at the statistics, it is the children who suffer the most when this happens. They are the true victim of divorce, not the adults.
Dealing with the Situation
If you’ve been arrested and you know you’re guilty, then you have to prepare your family for the eventuality of spending time in jail. Depending upon the severity of your case, the judge may or may not release you out on bail. If you are released, then do everything that you can to prepare them, but don’t tell them everything about the case though. You don’t want to jeopardize your case by talking too much, even with your own family.
Being arrested and dealing with life after the arrest will be hard on everyone. It will take a very strong family foundation to be able to surpass this situation.
Jennifer Dallas, a freelance writer, writes for numerous law-related blogs. She mostly writes for a bail bonds Monte blog where she hopes to teach people about bail, what it is, and what it is for. She also writes about the ramifications of being arrested and how to deal with it.